Stick with the winners.
So they say in AA. I don’t like it. I get why it’s said again and again - because we should ditch the people in our lives who are bad for us. Keep far from wet faces and wet places. Follow the lead of the people who have an honest and good sobriety. I still don’t like it. I don’t like the breaking things down to a too simple black and white.
While I am unable to get behind that, there is some aspect of the saying I do like. That is the idea of sticking with people who have something I want. Be it inspiration, motivation or some other positive impact, I want to be aware of who I hang around. It wasn’t always like this. I was often drawn to the negative. People who whine and complain and mock all the time. People are compelled to point out what’s wrong with others and make fun of shortcomings. I also participated in such activity. Until I sickened myself too much. I felt gross. But I tried to justify because I got to hang with the cool scenester kids.
It’s not enough. It wasn’t anything that made me strive to be a better person. To ever look at myself. It was empty and superficial. Now I have different priorities. Now I care. Detroit doesn’t have a huge lit community so I took the opportunity to check out some readings while in Chicago. That felt good. Felt uplifting and made me want to get better. The writing was thoughtful instead of easy and lazy. I use to get so excited by anybody that wrote that I liked anything they wrote. There was nothing positive about it, just making fun of others for what they like or who they are. It was sad then and it’s still sad now, but now I want more. These people I’ve met have something I want. So I’ll stick with that.